Relationships

You Can Benefit From Relationship Work as an Individual 

I am able to help clients with serious relationship problems either as individuals or as a couple. Working on your relationship individually without your spouse or partner present has certain advantages. In individual counseling, there is no need to conceal or soften your genuine thoughts and feelings toward your significant other to avoid hurting or angering them or setting off a major argument. When you are my client in individual counseling, you have my undivided loyalty and full commitment to act in your best interests from the beginning. You can be your real self and share your deepest needs, wants, desires, frustrations, disappointments, and hurts when it comes to your relationship. Sometimes I help you with reframing/revising your perception of your spouse to increase accuracy and build compassion. Sometimes we will work on identifying and mitigating narcissistic, physical or rage-related abuse or even consider separation/divorce. I am equipped to help you deal with problems relating to getting and staying sexually aroused, fear of intimacy, body shame or past sexual abuse trauma, whether it’s your problem or your spouse’s. Other times I help you see the need for and learn to set self-protective boundaries. And in some cases it emerges that your spouse or partner cannot function well in the relationship until he/she gets help for a mental illness, alcoholism or addiction. 

Couple Counseling May Be The Best Fit

Individual counseling for relationship problems allows you to reflect on and discuss what is and isn’t working in the relationship. It will enable you to consider your needs (both met and not met) and how your significant other’s statements and actions sometimes cause disappointment, frustration, sadness, or hurt.